Hello and Good-bye

Hello, Coats Family!

When Darrell and Susan Caldwell returned to the U.S. this past spring after twelve years of service with EMM, we were the only long-term EMM workers in Cambodia. Well, we're no longer alone! We are excited to introduce you to John and Debbie Coats and their boys, Micah(14) and Jesse (12). Join us in thanking God for the new relationship we are establishing with this EMM family!

Though new to EMM, the Coats family isn't new to Cambodia. They have been working here for about 17 years! They've had experience in medicine, agriculture, and church planting. Currently they are operating a tuberculosis clinic, providing mentoring and support to local church leaders, and running a character-shaping program for children. They've just recently joined EMM and we are excited to get to know them and help support each other in ministry.

John, Debbie, and Jesse live 3-4 hours outside of the city and Micah is boarding at his high school here in Phnom Penh. Because of the distance that separates us, we may not see them much more frequently than once a month, but we'll look forward to our times together.

Hello and Good-bye, Don and Keith!
Last weekend we had good opportunities to spend time with Skip and Carol Tobin and John and Debbie. We also had the honor of hosting/visiting with Don Sensenig, former long-term EMM missionary to Vietnam, and Keith Weaver, moderator of Lancaster Mennonite Conference. Don and Keith were in nearby Vietnam for some meetings between the Mennonite Church and the Vietnamese Government. Because they were close to Cambodia, they decided to swing over and it was a joy to have them with us for a few days. They were able to learn more of what EMM and MCC are doing here in Cambodia. Below, Keith and Don join in a time of prayer at our house.

Good-bye, Greta!

This morning, Bethany took Greta Kauffman, the one year EMM mission intern, to the airport. Greta has served and learned here in Cambodia for the past year. She is planning on going to medical school, so was interested in getting her feet wet in medical mission work. She helped Debbie Coats with some medical research and served in some clinics here in Phnom Penh. We regularly hosted Greta for supper once a week and we will miss her. Juliana and Kai have enjoyed having an "aunt" around. Below is a recent picture of Greta and our family.

Hello, care package!

We were excited to receive a care package this past week with all kinds of fun items for the kids and Lancaster County treats. (Thanks Ted and Ann!) Below Juliana and Kai are having fun with the box the goodies came in...

Most likely the highlight of this week will be Juliana's birthday. It's her golden one, so she'll be four on the fourth! We're plan to celebrate with a trip to a local playground area and, instead of cake, homemade whoopie pies. We plan to share these PA Dutch treats with Juliana's pre-school class as well as some neighbors and friends. Come on by and we'll share some with you too...

-Ryan

Cold Weather, Colds, and Warmed Hearts

On Monday, I road on the back of a motorcycle to language class wearing a short-sleeved shirt, as usual. However, this specific Monday I realized that I was almost shivering. The phrase, "It's cold today," is a new one for us to be using here in Phnom Penh. The climate is changing...

With the climate change has come our share of colds. Bethany was the first to come down with a cold, passing it to Juliana, and then Juliana to Kai, and now I've got a bit of a sore throat. It was hard to hear Juliana and Kai echoing coughs back and forth through several nights this past weekend. They both are on antibiotics and we're seeing some improvement. We look forward to returning to good health.

Juliana's excited about the weather because she now gets to wear pajamas to bed! She's thrilled about the new "jammies" that Bethany picked out for her at a nearby market the other week. (She's also sporting her new haircut!)

What's cool weather without doing some baking? Last week marked the first time our family made cookies together here in Cambodia. We made a batch of chocolate- and butterscotch-chip oatmeal cookies. Above, Kai is doing his part in helping the process.

Our hearts have been warmed with the visit of Skip and Carol Tobin, EMM Regional Reps. for Cambodia. We enjoyed spending time together this past weekend, visiting and "checking up" on how we're doing. We continue to appreciate the servant leaders that they are.

Above and below are two pictures of the church Ministry Team meeting that Skip and Carol led at our house with the Phnom Penh Mennonite Church.

That's all for this week. Blessings to you from afar!

-Ryan

Wedding Weekend - Part Three

Ryan provided transportation for the wedding party's location shoot in the afternoon, so got in on the fun outdoor shots taken in Stung Treng Town near the Mekong River.

Is this a gorgeous wedding party photo or what?! Notice the "un-da-new" (rainbow) in the sky. And now's a good time to explain that Khmer brides become quick-change artists at their weddings - SreyPenh wore at least 8 different wedding gowns throughout the day, probably more. (You may have noticed in the pictures, she wears a different gown in almost every one.) It depends on the bride and the financial status of the family - some brides may change as many as 20 times!



The reception was held in the evening at a restaurant several km. from the bride's home. Here's the happy couple cutting cake. It was then offered to their parents before they ate, and not served to all the guests present. (We only saw children and family eating any.)

Juliana became buddies with Soda (emphasis on the last syllable), one of the young women who travelled with us from Phnom Penh. She, like most other female guests at the reception, wore a very fancy evening gown (different than what she wore to the morning ceremony) and VERY heavy makeup. (We weren't clued in on the two-dress tradition, and I personally opted to pass on the inch-thick makeup application. PTL for the grace extended to clued-out foreigners!)

Kai gets a dance in with the groom. Well, sort of. : )


The weary travellers on the way back to Phnom Penh...

...and the horrible, rush-hour traffic jam that greeted us once we got into downtown PP!

All in all, it was a worthwhile trip, and a blessing to celebrate with Sopheak and SreyPenh as they start their marriage together!

Wedding Weekend - Part Two

Sorry, I really did mean to get back to this before a week went by. Anyway, continuing with the wedding...

Here we are sharing breakfast with other wedding ceremony guests. We are eating a rice-noodle soup called "baw-baw lote." The families provide wedding guests with breakfast and lunch, and then even more guests are invited to the evening reception!


During the ceremony, the groom and bride washed each other's feet. In traditional Buddhist weddings, only the woman washes her husband's feet. This was a believer's wedding, so they shared the symbolism together.

Here, Sopheak and SreyPenh exchange wedding rings.

Wearing silk outfits purchased just for this event, we get our photo taken with the new couple!!
Side note: I (Bethany) actually had my outfit tailored just for me. Cambodia is amazing that way - if you can't find what you're looking for, find someone to custom-make it. Since my feet are large for Asian shoe sizes, I actually found a shop to custom-make leather dress shoes - for $15! Imagine!!

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Wedding Weekend - Part One

This past Thursday, our family and a few friends hit the road for a long trip to Stung Treng, a province in northern Cambodia, bordering Laos. We were on our way to attend the wedding of our friend Sopheak, and we had a great time learning more about Cambodian wedding culture, getting outside of the city, enjoying fruit fresh from the tree, seeing dolphins jump in the Mekong River, and celebrating with the friends and family present for the wedding and reception.

Ryan drove the EMM van (he's getting really good at driving like a Cambodian - which is a little bit scary at times!) and Sophal (Women's Dorm Director), Soda and Pala (former dorm students), and Greta Kauffman (EMM intern) came with us. We stopped at Sophal's aunt's citrus orchard on the way, and enjoyed fresh orange juice in the grove. We slept the night at a guest house in Kratie (pronounced Kraw-jeh), stopped a bit on the banks of the Mekong River to see an endangered species of dolphins jumping in the water, and arrived at the SreyPenh (the bride)'s house on Friday afternoon.

At 7 a.m. Saturday morning, we joined the other guests in the traditional Khmer wedding proceedings. That is, getting in line behind the groom for a walk with family and wedding guests from a different location (maybe a kilometer away) to the bride's house, where she waits with her family. The guests all help to carry the "dowry gifts," which are food (fresh meat, veggies, fruit, desserts, etc.) that will be shared at the meals provided for the guests. In the photo above, Sopheak (in gold), wearing traditional dress and flanked by his parents, is waiting until the guests are all in order for the procession to begin. (We understand that some weddings start even earlier than this!)

Here, SreyPenh offers Sopheak a drink (coconut juice) to refresh him from the trek (which was not even a kilometer in this case, but such is the tradition). She is also wearing traditional dress, as Khmer royalty would have worn in centuries past.

Sopheak and SreyPenh before entering the house

Another tradition of Khmer weddings is to broadcast the proceedings and traditional wedding music from loudspeakers throughout the neighborhood and surrounding area. Even though we weren't always sure what was going on, the neighbors a couple km.'s away woud have known what was happening!

Well, due to some internet issues we seem to be having with the blog site, I'll have to make this into a two-part post and share the rest of the wedding photos later. Stay tuned for the rest of the story!

EMM Friends and Our Pastor's Graduation

One of the highlights of this past week was spending time with Dave Harnish and Jimm Derksen, EMM staff workers from Salunga, PA who were visiting parts of Asia. It was good to see these two again and we were greatly encouraged by our times of fellowship and an encouraging time of prayer before they took off this past Thursday.

Though we don't have any pictures of Dave, here's a picture of Jimm in our house, sipping a fresh "duk doan" (coconut water).












Another highlight from this week for me was going to Phnom Penh Bible school for it's 14th annual graduation ceremony. Here is the school's auditorium.








The speaker for the event reminded the graduating class and all those attending the ceremony that though there are many kinds of leaders in our world, Christian leaders must seek, above all else, to be faithful Christ-like leaders.
The reason I went to the graduation was to support Pastor Dady. Dady, pictured here with his wife, son and daughter, is the pastor of Phnom Penh Mennonite church. He graduated with a bachelor's degree in Christian Ministry. Join us in praying for Pastor Dady and his family. He is a dedicated, passionate young man juggling responsibilities of family, university studies (he's continuing to study English), and part-time work with the church.




-Ryan

Ryan's Language Class, Etc.

Greetings from Cambodia! Many of you reading this blog are experiencing cooler temps and enjoy seeing the changing colors of leaves. Well, that's not our experience. It's still hot and green and so it doesn't really feel like fall to us.
Yesterday, as I listened to a song by Fernando Ortega based on Psalm 104, I was encouraged to join creation in it's song. Whatever climate we're in, creation is singing (and longs to sing more fully) the praises of our God. What is creation's song? Well, Ortega states it like this: "Glory, Halleluia, Glory to the Lamb. All praises and honor, forever, Amen." Our creator God is so powerful and so loving. May we, Christ's followers, fully surrender ourselves to Him that he may receive maximum honor from our lives.
If our family is going to communicate with Cambodian people about our majestic and merciful God, we've got to be able to speak the language of our listeners. We've been reminded in some of our missionary training that God was a language learner. As he came in the person of Jesus, he learned Hebrew and Aramaic. So we're following his footsteps, wanting to meet people where they are.
It's facinating to Bethany and I how excited people here get when we use the Khmer that we do know. "Oh, you speak the Khmer language very well!" When our Khmer neighbors run into Westerners, they're often tourists or English teachers who don't have a similar interest in communicating with Cambodian people in their native language.
In learning Khmer, we say to the Cambodian people that their language and culture are important to us. As they learn to see Christ in us, broken people though we are, we pray that they will also come to recognize that they are incredibly important to Him. We hope and pray that these people will receive God's grace, share it with others, and let their lives join creation in singing to their creator, "Glory, Halleluia, Glory to our God. All praises and honor, forever, and ever Amen."
Thanks for your thoughts, prayers, and love from afar...
-Ryan

P.S. Enjoy the pics below...
Here's the sign for the language school that I attend from 7:30-9:00 am, Monday-Friday. Notice the sign is written in Khmer (top), English (bottom left), and French (bottom right.) Cambodia was a French colony at one time.

"Lo Crew (teacher) Para" and I standing in front of the white board, which he uses to teach us all kinds of Khmer consonants, vowels, vocabulary and grammar. I really appreciate his enthusiasm for teaching and his friendly personality.

While I'm studying Khmer, Kai is hard at work learning the trade of "play." He's fond of chewing on anything he get's his hands on, knocking down towers, playing peek-a-boo, and laughing at his big sister's crazy antics. Here's Kai playing with Allison, the daughter of friends from church.








And here's Juliana, learning how to look like her daddy when he had a gotee. (Yes, she did get some of the ice cream in her mouth...)

Back to School

Although we've been learning Khmer ever since we arrived in Cambodia six months ago (tonight!), we recently stepped up our studies by enrolling in language courses where, in addition to listening and speaking, we're going to attempt to learn to read and write. Last week, to aid our study of the Khmer alphabet, I bought and hung two posters on the walls of our dining room. Now, as we eat our American breakfasts and Khmer lunches and suppers, we get to study the never-ending (or so they seem!) consonants and vowels. And just in case anyone out there is interested in studying them a bit, too, I'll give you an introduction.

In the poster above, each block showcases a consonant in the upper-left corner, a subscript in the lower-left corner (I haven't really learned what they're all about, but I believe mainly used to spell words that have two consonants beside each other), a picture of a word that begins with that consonant, and the word spelled in small letters in the bottom-right corner. Red consonants are first series (with an "-aw" sound) and blue consonants are second series (with an "-oh" sound). So, reading across the top, the letters are Kaw, Khaw, Koh, Khoh, Ngoh. (And the k without the h behind sounds more like our g, but now I'm getting technical...)

This is a close-up of the numbers 0-9 on the bottom right of the same poster. Starting on the left top (with zero) and reading down two columns, the numbers are shown characterized by an animal with the black numeric script beside it on the right. Thankfully, the arabic numerals we're used to in the west are recognized and used universally as well, or we'd be lost just trying to find an address or get a phone number!

And here we have the 23 vowels, which each have a first and second series sound as well, making for nearly 46 vowel sounds! One knows (once one has mastered the alphabet, that is!) which sound to use by the series of the consonant with which it's used in conjuction - oh, and as far as position, the vowels can go over top, beside, or below the consonant. (For example, in the photo with the numbers, two vowels are seen on the bottom left -the grey circle represents the location of a consonant.) Also, for your viewing pleasure, an assortment of pictures/words of Southeast Asian food.

*Side note: The fruit in the center of the poster (third row, third column from left) is called durian (English) or Too-rain (Khmer), and to many (I'm not one of them) is considered a delicacy. It is large, about the size of a football, has soft, yellow-white flesh, a VERY pungent odor and a unique taste. In my own opinion, the smell is a cross between sweaty, old gym clothes and rotten eggs, and the taste reminds me of an onion omelet. We have heard of airlines that forbid travel with said fruit, hotels prohibiting its consumption on their premises, and a wife who can always tell hours later after her husband indulges his durian cravings - his breath gives him away!)

So, on the days when learning the Khmer alphabet is more than we can grasp, we try to take lessons from our kids and either not let it scare us...

... or just grin and bear it anyway!

PS. Language Learning Update: We've had a recent change of plans, and Ryan and I are actually taking two different courses - he's still at the university (Institute of Foreign Languages), but I'm now studying with a tutor at Khmer School of Language. We are each happy with our teacher/tutor, and the arrangement is working well.

- Bethany

Welcome to our Home - Part Two

On this post we'll continue the tour of our home, started in the last post. Welcome to the second floor of our home.













First we'll see Juliana's room. Notice our little "almost four-year-old" sound asleep in her little blue "tent" which keeps the mosquitoes away while she sleeps. The mosquitoes here aren't too bad, but we've woken up with some polka-dotted arms and legs when we've slept without a net or when we've not stayed completely covered up with a sheet.














Next we have Bethany, my, and Kai's room. Little Kai is hiding behind the rungs of his crib. He had just woken up from a nap, so he wasn't too happy I took this shot.














This is the family room with a bookshelf and sofa opposite the wall pictured. This is where bed-time stories are read and DVD's are watched. The multi-colored foam squares below the T.V. are to prevent Kai from chewing on the remotes.




This tour brought to you in part by Children's Tylenol, which helps fussy teething babies, like the one here, reclaim their photogenic smile.

-Ryan

Dad Turns 60!

Today, October 6th, 2008 is a special day indeed. It marks the 6oth birthday of one of my most favorite persons, my dad! To those of you who know him, you understand why I deeply appreciate him. To those of you who don't know him, you're missing out. I love you Dad!

See the 60 year old man in the pictures below...

Family Photo, Summer 2007 at Swampy Hollow Farm

With Juliana and Mom, Summer 2007 at our home at Turtle Hill Rd.

Wtih Mom, Juliana, and Kai during some special months of living together at 530 Valley Ave, Early Spring 2008

-Ryan